You have to protect your peace in life! It start with identifying things that do not feel right! The whole key is to get out of situations early. As an athlete you have to have a good environment and have a strong support team in your life! Always trust your instincts!
Stages of a narcissist:
1. Idealization (The "Love Bombing" Phase)
The relationship begins with intense affection and attention, often called love bombing. The narcissist showers the partner with gifts, excessive flattery, and grand declarations of love.
This creates a sense of being "soulmates," but it is primarily a manipulation tactic designed to lower the partner's defenses and establish codependency.
2. Devaluation
Once the partner is hooked, the mask begins to slip. The affection is replaced by criticism, silent treatments, emotional withdrawal, and gaslighting. The narcissist chips away at the
partner's self-esteem and creates a dynamic where the partner feels they must work harder and walk on eggshells to regain the "perfect" love from the first
stage.
3. Discard
When the partner is no longer useful, has set boundaries, or the narcissist simply grows bored, the discard phase occurs. The narcissist abruptly ends the relationship, often leaving the
partner confused, heartbroken, and feeling discarded like an object.
4. Hoovering
Often, the cycle doesn't end permanently after the discard. The narcissist may "hoover" (a term derived from the vacuum cleaner) to suck the partner back into the relationship. They may
apologize, feign remorse, make empty promises of change, or claim they have transformed. If the partner accepts, the cycle resets back to the idealization phase.
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